How do you tell your wife

I got fired from my first job when my wife was heavily pregnant with our first born -she was still a student at the time with no income. I told her the truth and she was furious with them, not me (even though, to be honest, I wasn't good at the job in question). Your woman's gonna stand by you, if she's worth anything. You'd stand by her, right? That's what marriage is.
 
Just tell her man. Look for her support not her criticism. As a couple, you have up and downs. Let her help you find a new job.
 
DougieJones said:
I've been fired once before. It was my fault though for being a retard. Luckily it was a job I was already considering leaving. Honestly I would just come out and tell her, nothing good comes from hiding anything. Take a shitty temporary job to keep some sort of income, and use the pain as motivation to hunt down a new position.
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Im guessing the hardest part is because he's older.

I've been laid off before and tell my girl like its no big deal. "hey, this happened, but don't worry about it, I'm certainly not going to. I'll handle it, and we will move forward with something else."

That said, I haven't worked anywhere for 27 years. By nature, I never would.
 
We are a very small local. (130 people)
They offered buy outs to people 62 and older, I am 53.
Not enough workers took the offer.
They implemented a 2 tier pay scale a couple contracts ago.
I figure they found a reason to get rid of me, without having to offer a severance.
 
Cooz said:
I don't think the reason for your termination is that big of a deal, but if you insist you could tell her you were fired for making a mistake on the assembly line (or whatever it is you do), but that they were still willing to give you a good reference.

In the meantime, drive uber/lyft or even better, find a logistic company to work for and deliver packages for amazon.

Hang in there man. On the grand scale of things, this isn't that bad.
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Thanks, but I really fucked up.
 
OldTimer said:
You have been fired?
Got fired after 27 years for smoking cigs in an unauthorized area of the plant.
Actually, they put a camera up, and I got recorded smoking 3 times. Too cold to smoke outside, so I thought I'd be slick. Didn't work.
Union had a 3rd step grievance, and the company refused to budge.

Also....it will be near impossible to find another good job at my age. (plus trying to explain to a prospective employer I was fired after 27 years.

Really fucking me up.

No pity party here, but really considering ending it all.

I hurt real bad. Let down my wife.
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so did they come to you after compiling 3 smoking incidents or were you warned for the first 2 infractions? If it's the latter and you still smoked there, you deserve to lose your job.
 
PG29 red0 Jr said:
If the person is a poor employee, a safety violation like this is a great way to get them out when you otherwise can't. It's difficult to fire a union employee based off poor performance alone.
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The plant manager said I was a very good operator with excellent attendance.
He just said they could overlook the severity of the offense (smoking in an MCC room, a room with electrical boxes in it)
 
dissectingaorticaneurysm said:
so did they come to you after compiling 3 smoking incidents or were you warned for the first 2 infractions? If it's the latter and you still smoked there, you deserve to lose your job.
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No, they didn't. Maybe they didn't have time, since it was 3 days in a row.
Bone chilling days outside, so I thought I was slick.
I wasn't
 
laz0001 said:
Just tell her man. Look for her support not her criticism. As a couple, you have up and downs. Let her help you find a new job.
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We have been having marital problems, but things were looking up until this happened.
Now back to square one.
 
Well, I fired a guy once and then ran into his wife at the store. Apparenly he told her this long convoluted story about how the company screwed him over and it wasn't fair, this manager had it out for him, etc. She seemed to believe his story, but who knows. Subconsciously she probably knew it was his fault.

If it were me, I'd probably just be honest with her and say I screwed up, and I'll find another job and make this right. And then follow through with that promise. Lots of people don't think they'll ever get another job, but end up getting one even better than the last one.

Sounds like you got complacent and took your job for granted. Don't do that with the next one. Work your butt off and you'll be fine and so will your marriage.

Best wishes man.
 
OldTimer said:
We have been having marital problems, but things were looking up until this happened.
Now back to square one.
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don't become a statistic. White men 45-55 have the highest risk of suicide today and I'm guessing you fall under that category. What can your job experience transfer over to?
 
Fedorgasm said:
If it were me, I'd probably just be honest with her and say I screwed up, and I'll find another job and make this right. And then follow through with that promise. Lots of people don't think they'll ever get another job, but end up getting one even better than the last one.

Sounds like you got complacent and took your job for granted. Don't do that with the next one. Work your butt off and you'll be fine and so will your marriage.

Best wishes man.
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Thanks.
I am (was) an operator in a plant.
I will never find another job like this $34/hr, especially at my age (53)
The most I can find is 1/2 that, not to mention the fact I was fired.
Who wants to hire a 53 year old?
 
27 years?! I hope they warned you first and didn’t just drop the hammer one day. That’s no way to treat somebody that’s been with your company for that many years
 
dissectingaorticaneurysm said:
don't become a statistic. White men 45-55 have the highest risk of suicide today and I'm guessing you fall under that category. What can your job experience transfer over to?
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Actually none in this area.
The closest would be a forklift operator, or warehousing.
They top out around $16/ hr.
Do you believe people who commit suicide go to hell?
^^^^^^^:
Only thing stopping me.
I really let her and myself down.
 
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