Bachelor life is more depressing than what I thought it would be

[Lights Out 101]

I’ve been inactive on here for a little while and never usually make threads like these, but here goes.

A little backstory - I split up with my fiancé (and mother of my child) a couple months ago due to her going on cute dates with a convicted criminal while I was at work providing for our family. We were supposed to be getting married in November and had pretty much everything booked. Now I’m living alone and paying child support.

Now, during the time we’ve broken up, I’ve never been so sexually active in my life and have slept with multiple different women through Tinder. I thought this would be the start of an exciting and fulfilling new bachelor life, but instead I’m left with feelings of emptiness and loneliness every night. It’s at the point now where I’m not even enjoying sleeping with these women anymore and I’m only doing it to feed my own ego.

So, what gives exactly? I see dudes in similar situations to myself just absolutely loving it and having the time of their lives, yet here I am finding myself slowly getting more depressed as each day goes by and going back to my excessive drinking habits.

Probably not the best place to post this, but I needed to vent.

 

[Midnighter]

You're probably just depressed tbh

 

[heavyarms21]

I pretty much do The random hook up a couple weeks at a time and I am also not together with my baby mama and I'm doing fine. Although that relationship is friendly.

 

[genecop]

Don’t think so much, cut back on the serial sport fucking, it’s cool and all but not for everyone. Half of the assholes that brag about loving it are lying...

Everyone is different, if you have more emotional depth and are not so full of fear, you will pursue a more meaningful relationship..Breath, make some changes, spend some time alone...

 

[Pugilistic]

Because banging randoms isn't going to fill the void.

 

[Jack Reacheround]

You have to tell us more about your fiancé. How did you find out about her dating some ex con? We’re they actual dates? Did she try to say they were just friends? How did they meet?

 

[Estemachine]

You are looking for happiness outside of you, which you'll never find. You have to get focus and excited on what YOU would like to do and experience, see now that's where you truly start living.

 

[Deleted member 335905]

You might have issues with Codependency.

Try talking to a therapist.

Perhaps it could be as simple as your core values of a loving committed relationship are shaken up and messing with your head

Banging random chicks does get old for some people. You are missing out on true companionship and intimacy.

 

[NoGoodNamesLeft]

Awwww poor ts is elbow deep in fresh poon with as much free time as possible. Sounds ghastly!

 

[HARRISON_3]

Been there done that.

Yea, it gets old quicker than you'd think (the tinder/bumble, etc part) and sleeping with multiple women at a time feels oddly unfulfilling.

Maybe take time off from that.

Bachelor life can be awesome, as it lets you focus on you (if you take advantage of it) but it can easily get away from you if you let it.

 

[HereticBD]

You have different goals than your bachelor friends, and are judging your own happiness based on others'.

Stop doing that, and live for yourself. Just because they're happy, doesn't mean anything is wrong with you for wanting more. However, the more goals you set for yourself, requires the tenacity to get them done. Get them done, or lower your goals.

 

[Crash Lance]

This thread reminds me why I'm so happy that I have such magnificent hands.

I'm running up walls right now.

 

[Headkicktoleg]

It's boring as fuck after you're out of college. Being with someone you love is so much better. Sounds like you're understandably heartbroken.

 

[Lights Out 101]

You have to tell us more about your fiancé. How did you find out about her dating some ex con? We’re they actual dates? Did she try to say they were just friends? How did they meet?

Her friend sent me screenshots of the conversations they were having, which also included her sending nudes to him. They went bowling and to the movies together, so yeah, I’d say they were actual dates.

He wasn’t a random dude, I also knew the guy prior to all this but never liked him.

 

[KONG-D'SNT-TAP]

I absolutely love the bachelor life.

I have money and my looks still and I love it.

 

[Ogata]

I’ve been inactive on here for a little while and never usually make threads like these, but here goes.

A little backstory - I split up with my fiancé (and mother of my child) a couple months ago due to her going on cute dates with a convicted criminal while I was at work providing for our family. We were supposed to be getting married in November and had pretty much everything booked. Now I’m living alone and paying child support.

Now, during the time we’ve broken up, I’ve never been so sexually active in my life and have slept with multiple different women through Tinder. I thought this would be the start of an exciting and fulfilling new bachelor life, but instead I’m left with feelings of emptiness and loneliness every night. It’s at the point now where I’m not even enjoying sleeping with these women anymore and I’m only doing it to feed my own ego.

So, what gives exactly? I see dudes in similar situations to myself just absolutely loving it and having the time of their lives, yet here I am finding myself slowly getting more depressed as each day goes by and going back to my excessive drinking habits.

Probably not the best place to post this, but I needed to vent.

How old is your ex and convict?

I ask because it sounds like something a person with no responsibility would do not a person with a child. How long were you seeing her for and when you met, were you guys deeply in love with each other?

I ask because I want to know if relationships fizzle out because their foundation is based on sexuality or if its based on companionship and deep affection.

 

[Tycho- Taylor's Version]

You lost your family, you should expect to be depressed for some time. Keep active like like you're doing and open to new experiences and hobbies.

 

[ScarfaceJr]

This aint gonna help, but it seems like your mistake was giving your seed to your ex.

these hoes aint loyal.
How long did you know her before you knocked her up?

 

[nicapica]

lol i dont miss sitting in my car eating taco bell all alone after work because my home is even lonelier.

 

[nostradumbass]

If it makes you feel any better, everyone else probably found it depressing too watching a guy with a kid try to slay random poon from tinder. If you're single now and have more free time, there is no good reason to completely waste it entertaining a bunch of randos in hopes of getting laid and probably getting catfished and catching a few STDs. Read, play an instrument, work out, leave some dirty dishes in your sink. You just spent however long having to tapdance for some sloot, and your idea of taking advantage of it is tapdancing for a bunch of other sloots?