Social (AMA) Divorced at 50, I'm trying polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy

twenty + years

Yea, getting married young is never a good idea for most guys, I didn’t get married until 40….I knew I was a horny dog that couldn’t be faithful, so I waited…
I’ve made plenty of bad choices over the years, but that decision to wait was Gold….
 
Ts within a month-
"Well guys, I have syphilis, hpv, and possibly AIDS. It was nice knowing you."
Who gives a ufck. The man is 51. It's all downhill from here no matter what he does. So might as well go out in a blaze of glory (pu$$y).
 
Yea, getting married young is never a good idea for most guys, I didn’t get married until 40….I knew I was a horny dog that couldn’t be faithful, so I waited…
I’ve made plenty of bad choices over the years, but that decision to wait was Gold….
I fucked so much before I got married. Trust me, this ain't about just fucking. It's about the freedom to choose when and how I make commitments.
 
Who gives a ufck. The man is 51. It's all downhill from here no matter what he does. So might as well go out in a blaze of glory (pu$$y).
Maybe. LOL. But, people in my family stay young looking for a LONG time. As long as I'm working out, eating right, I should have a nice ride ahead. LMAO.
 
This just sounds exhausting to me…I’m 51 and if I got divorced I’m 100% certain I would just go hunting and fishing and forgo any further sexual partners. Just not worth the bother or effort.
I like to go out to restaurants, events, special attractions, cuddle on the couch, smoke weed, hike national parks, go play darts, etc.

And the ladies want a guy who does all that shit. They don't want to sit at home and stare at Netflix all the time - no matter what they say.
 
Look man if you're happy more power to you. I hope you can continue to be happy with it until the end of your days.

Not the lifestyle I would choose but I won't condemn you for it.
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For whatever reason, I doubt that most guys in their 50s are going to have anything close to the amount of success that you say you're having.. sleeping with 5 attractive women in their 30's at once.. that's difficult for a lot of guys in their 30s to do.. guys in their 50s are usually very gross..

So no wonder most of the responses you're getting are a mix of jealousy / disbelief..
From other posts, you'll note I'm a runner. For over 17 years, I ran competitively and worked out 3-6 days a week. While I note that I have an average body. I'm also aware that I'm put together better than a lot of 50 yr old men. It's okay if folks don't believe me. It's the internets. I posted this for fun, not validation.
 
Wut. I've dabbled in the kink scene in the past (which has lots of crossover with the swingers scene), and there are plenty of older folks that swing.

The responses to this thread are kind of strange. I tend to think that poly folks are overly interested in sexual gratification, but that's their choice to make. I'll agree with the TS that many of the folks in the scene are much more mature, open and honest about relationships/stds/kinks/interests, and intellectually curious than the general population. There's also a huge part of the scene that are the most socially awkward/weird people you've ever met, multiplied by a 1000. Its usually one or the other.
THIS! So, last night I went on a first date (same day I made the original post) with a 31 yr old woman. She warned me that she was a little awkward and she didn't lie. She's very nice, but I could see in regular work and social circles that she might be seen as pretty weird. I have no idea if I'll see her again, we kissed a little - about the same amount I would on any first date, but we didn't have sex.
 
Let TS bang bros.

good for you it is working out. I guess you don't want a serious relationship ATM.

BTW.. would you be down to be in a poly amorous relationship but being the husband?
Excellent question. I'm open to being remarried. I haven't given a lot of thought to what happens then. If I met someone who was poly, I'd consider a situation where we both had one additional partner.
 
So basically you're just casually dating?
Yes. But primarily women who already have husbands or boyfriends - and they know about me, have seen my pics, etc. In most situations, they either tell me all about their partner, or I do my own research based on public records.
 
If you don't have Jesus Christ as your savior and Lord, then you should be concerned about getting shot.

#eternitymatters
Jesus isn't a real thing. The only "savior" that God has given you, is yourself.
 
Swinging with other people's wives is a good way to endanger yourself and maybe even get murdered. Even if you say this is consensual

You're playing with fire
I'm not swinging. I'm dating. I talk to these women on the phone with their husbands and boyfriends wandering in and out of the room all the time. LOL In most cases, they straight up tell me their partner's names, occupations, everything. Sometimes I only get a first name, but I usually search public records on both individuals. I have a Spokeo account for security purposes.
 
Happy to hear that you're happy.

What do you view as the end goal of this lifestyle for you?

Sorry if it's been covered before, but what things went south in your relationship that caused it to end?
The possible end goal is have two partners. That's more than enough. In one relationship I would be primary and the other I would be secondary. I hadn't thought about if I would be married to the primary until I made this thread, but maybe. We'll see.
 
Sounds exhausting... I'd suggest getting a more productive hobby.
I run, read, sit on the board of directors of two nonprofits, hike, play darts, bowl, write, and own my own business (with clients in several cities). I'm also taking some online courses. I take several trips a year.

I'm pretty productive.
 
Definitely one of the more interesting threads in Mayberry. I just can’t wrap my head around a man being cool with his partner going out once a week to get plowed by some other guy.

nevertheless this sounds like a winning scenario for you, TS.
I see one of my female friends about 2-3 times a week. We go on regular dates, we cuddle, we discuss politics/art/history/science and we fuck. Sometimes we sit around and talk on the phone after dates. The only ppl they isolate from their lifestyle are their kids- if kids are in the picture.

To be honest, some of these women are so goddamn fine that I wonder how someone can share too. LOL But, that man gets to do his thing as well.
 
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