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Think for yourself. You have a family and hopefully your children will be the best thing that ever happened to you. How do you treat your children? Is it on equal terms regardless of boy or girl? Of course, it is so if you belong to the humanity that looks with a humanistic eye. But religion and culture around the world do not look the same way and this worries me and that is why I react strongly if I see girls affected by this archaic way of thinking in my own country.
Here I present a life story that is so sad that no normally functioning human can not be untouched. But there are these men of this religion who reject stories like these, who call stories like these lies.
@Kafir-kun , a pretentious muslim who wants to learn arabic points to everyone that he was born and raised in the USA, but at the same time sees our western way of life as something hedonistic. Why he lives in the USA at all is a mystery. This poster who is praised in the Masturbation Club Lounge rejects Ayaan Hirsi (reforming Islam), sees those who are Muslims and criticizes its religion as greater enemies than Westerners like myself.
Read the story of a princess and and get worried.
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https://www.aftonbladet.se/nyheter/...an-familjen-i-dubai-min-frihet-togs-ifran-mig
DUBAI / LONDON. She was allowed to see the world, but could not be part of it. As her freedom as a woman became increasingly limited, Sara, 33, decided to leave the family and her homeland. For good.
- Many people see Dubai as a welcoming place, full of freedom, but they don't know that many women are trapped in their own homes, she says.
Dubai couple.
She follows the slow stream of people in the narrow corridor of the airport. Her first steps on British soil with her new husband at her side. The seven-hour flight from Dubai has been an emotional roller coaster. Now there is no return.
On her way to the Arrivals Hall, she picks up her cellphone and the e-mail she has already written. She has tried to explain: - I dislike the injustices, how women are treated, the lack of freedom for us women". Then she types in her big sister's email address, press send. She breaks the SIM card in her cellphone into two parts and throws it in the nearest trash. Relief comes only when they leave the Arrivals Hall. This is where life should begin.
From the outside, she had everything. Born into an upper-class family in the United Arab Emirates, her mother belongs to one of the six royal families who govern the seven different emirates in the country. Dad from the upper society. She went to private school, was allowed to study at university, have Western friends. She got to see the world outside. But as soon as her parents realized that she also wanted to be part of it, everything changed.
We see her in a rainy south London, where Sara and David have lived together for the past three years. They are really called something else, but want to be anonymous, not take unnecessary risks. - I'm not afraid anymore for my family to come here and try to bring me home. But during my first year here, I was paranoid and looked around as I walked the streets, says Sara.
She is eager to tell her story, as there are few she knows who have succeeded in leaving. - There are few who dare to try and manage to be free from oppression and take the right over their lives. It is important to share my story because people see Dubai as a welcoming place, full of freedom, but they do not know that many women are trapped in their own homes.
She describes life at home in the United Arab Emirates as a double life. - In my family, it was okay to take part of the world outside until I stood up for what I believe in. On my freedom, equality and to choose who I want to live with. For my way of looking at life, my freedom was taken away from me. My family looked at me as a failure. In my family the honor is held high.
On the sly, Sara went to a psychologist for strength. The situation at home worsened, it went so far that at the age of 24 she lived in isolation at home for eight months. Her father confiscated her ID documents, car keys, mobile and computer. Sara mostly stayed inside her girl's room. She hungered. - No one in the family cared about me, no one came into my room and asked how I was feeling. It was only our housekeeper who looked after me. I became anorexic, completely isolated. In the end they had to feed me with drip, says Sara.
As Sara complied with the demands of the family, she regained some freedom. She had to take a job that involved several trips abroad. But her future was nevertheless clear: to move from one guardianship to another.
- Education is very important, but as soon as you are fully educated they want to marry one, and there life ends.
Sara describes how existence, society's view of the women's body, has had devastating consequences for her health.
- During my upbringing, it was taboo for unmarried women to talk about gynecologist visits. If you are not married, you must be discreet. I have had severe abdominal pain in connection with my period since I was in my teens.
She told of the pain of her mother, who did not take the symptoms seriously. She never went to the doctor. It wasn't until Sara came to London that she, when 29 years old, went to the gynecologist for the first time. Then it turned out that the abdomen was full of endometriosis cysts. The first message from the doctor was that she probably couldn't conceive. She had to undergo two surgeries, the latter of which could make it possible. But there are no guarantees.
They look at each other and smile. Sara and David describe it as love at first sight. David, an English who was born and raised in London, met Sara for the first time in 2014 at Heathrow Airport. They were both on a job trip. They began a secret relationship that lasted for almost a year. David was neither elected a suitable candidate by the family, nor a Muslim.
He flew to Dubai as often as he could. At home, Sara played an acting so that no one in the family would suspect anything. So she managed to get to London for a shorter summer course. In connection with the trip, they were secretly married before returning to Dubai. Meanwhile, David arranged a visa with the help of a lawyer.
Outside the restaurant in south London where we meet, nothing reminds us of life at home, about the heat, the beaches. That the country, especially Dubai, is portrayed as the luxurious, modern, liberal place in the Middle East calls Sara double-standards.
- They invite foreigners to come there to live a full life ... we see those girls, who live a life we cannot live. We sit at a distance and watch.
After sending her farewell email to her sister minutes after she landed in London three years ago, Sara is bombarded with emails from her mother. About anger and guilt, about sadness. "You will have no happiness in life, it will curse you". "Please daughter, come home again." "You have exposed the family to an unforgettable shame" "We will never forgive you".
- My own dad doesn't even want to know my name, says Sara. I have suffered from depression, breakdowns and have great anxiety about how my own family has reacted.
Today Sara no longer has direct contact with the family. She can't cope anymore. - I was so hurt by my mother's e-mail that I stopped reading them. I tried to make them understand, make them love me regardless, but nothing helped. My parents are so scared of the family's reputation that they are lying to relatives and friends about what has happened. The official explanation is that Sara is still studying at the University of London. Sara only has contact with a friend in the homeland who knows the truth.
- I can't talk to anyone at home to not reveal why I escaped, she says. David has not given up hope that her family will one day change. It's sad to see how a family can forget someone so easily. I keep in touch with parts of the family and friends, send pictures, tell her she is fine. In any case, we try, even if I don't always get a response, he says. David even converted to Islam in the hope that the family would accept him.
Earlier this year, Pope Francis visited the Arabian Peninsula on the Persian Gulf for the first time, to strengthen the ties between Christianity and Islam. 2019 is set for the tolerant year in the United Arab Emirates.
Is the country still moving forward?
- It's laughable, like propaganda. It's a way to darken the attention and headlines that several princesses tried to escape from the royal family in Dubai, Sara says. Three years have passed. Sara has never regretted leaving. She is still healing. - I have had the nightmares and wake up by crying in my sleep ... Freedom is not something everyone can count on.
Discriminatory laws against women in the United Arab Emirates
- Sharia law and the tradition of polygamy are still alive in the country. A man can have four wives at once. A woman, on the other hand, can only be married to a man.
- A man can marry a non-Muslim woman. But for a Muslim woman to marry a man of another religion is not allowed.
- A woman also has to have the go-ahead from a male guardian to get married.
Here I present a life story that is so sad that no normally functioning human can not be untouched. But there are these men of this religion who reject stories like these, who call stories like these lies.
@Kafir-kun , a pretentious muslim who wants to learn arabic points to everyone that he was born and raised in the USA, but at the same time sees our western way of life as something hedonistic. Why he lives in the USA at all is a mystery. This poster who is praised in the Masturbation Club Lounge rejects Ayaan Hirsi (reforming Islam), sees those who are Muslims and criticizes its religion as greater enemies than Westerners like myself.
Read the story of a princess and and get worried.
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https://www.aftonbladet.se/nyheter/...an-familjen-i-dubai-min-frihet-togs-ifran-mig
DUBAI / LONDON. She was allowed to see the world, but could not be part of it. As her freedom as a woman became increasingly limited, Sara, 33, decided to leave the family and her homeland. For good.
- Many people see Dubai as a welcoming place, full of freedom, but they don't know that many women are trapped in their own homes, she says.
Dubai couple.
She follows the slow stream of people in the narrow corridor of the airport. Her first steps on British soil with her new husband at her side. The seven-hour flight from Dubai has been an emotional roller coaster. Now there is no return.
On her way to the Arrivals Hall, she picks up her cellphone and the e-mail she has already written. She has tried to explain: - I dislike the injustices, how women are treated, the lack of freedom for us women". Then she types in her big sister's email address, press send. She breaks the SIM card in her cellphone into two parts and throws it in the nearest trash. Relief comes only when they leave the Arrivals Hall. This is where life should begin.
From the outside, she had everything. Born into an upper-class family in the United Arab Emirates, her mother belongs to one of the six royal families who govern the seven different emirates in the country. Dad from the upper society. She went to private school, was allowed to study at university, have Western friends. She got to see the world outside. But as soon as her parents realized that she also wanted to be part of it, everything changed.
We see her in a rainy south London, where Sara and David have lived together for the past three years. They are really called something else, but want to be anonymous, not take unnecessary risks. - I'm not afraid anymore for my family to come here and try to bring me home. But during my first year here, I was paranoid and looked around as I walked the streets, says Sara.
She is eager to tell her story, as there are few she knows who have succeeded in leaving. - There are few who dare to try and manage to be free from oppression and take the right over their lives. It is important to share my story because people see Dubai as a welcoming place, full of freedom, but they do not know that many women are trapped in their own homes.
She describes life at home in the United Arab Emirates as a double life. - In my family, it was okay to take part of the world outside until I stood up for what I believe in. On my freedom, equality and to choose who I want to live with. For my way of looking at life, my freedom was taken away from me. My family looked at me as a failure. In my family the honor is held high.
On the sly, Sara went to a psychologist for strength. The situation at home worsened, it went so far that at the age of 24 she lived in isolation at home for eight months. Her father confiscated her ID documents, car keys, mobile and computer. Sara mostly stayed inside her girl's room. She hungered. - No one in the family cared about me, no one came into my room and asked how I was feeling. It was only our housekeeper who looked after me. I became anorexic, completely isolated. In the end they had to feed me with drip, says Sara.
As Sara complied with the demands of the family, she regained some freedom. She had to take a job that involved several trips abroad. But her future was nevertheless clear: to move from one guardianship to another.
- Education is very important, but as soon as you are fully educated they want to marry one, and there life ends.
Sara describes how existence, society's view of the women's body, has had devastating consequences for her health.
- During my upbringing, it was taboo for unmarried women to talk about gynecologist visits. If you are not married, you must be discreet. I have had severe abdominal pain in connection with my period since I was in my teens.
She told of the pain of her mother, who did not take the symptoms seriously. She never went to the doctor. It wasn't until Sara came to London that she, when 29 years old, went to the gynecologist for the first time. Then it turned out that the abdomen was full of endometriosis cysts. The first message from the doctor was that she probably couldn't conceive. She had to undergo two surgeries, the latter of which could make it possible. But there are no guarantees.
They look at each other and smile. Sara and David describe it as love at first sight. David, an English who was born and raised in London, met Sara for the first time in 2014 at Heathrow Airport. They were both on a job trip. They began a secret relationship that lasted for almost a year. David was neither elected a suitable candidate by the family, nor a Muslim.
He flew to Dubai as often as he could. At home, Sara played an acting so that no one in the family would suspect anything. So she managed to get to London for a shorter summer course. In connection with the trip, they were secretly married before returning to Dubai. Meanwhile, David arranged a visa with the help of a lawyer.
Outside the restaurant in south London where we meet, nothing reminds us of life at home, about the heat, the beaches. That the country, especially Dubai, is portrayed as the luxurious, modern, liberal place in the Middle East calls Sara double-standards.
- They invite foreigners to come there to live a full life ... we see those girls, who live a life we cannot live. We sit at a distance and watch.
After sending her farewell email to her sister minutes after she landed in London three years ago, Sara is bombarded with emails from her mother. About anger and guilt, about sadness. "You will have no happiness in life, it will curse you". "Please daughter, come home again." "You have exposed the family to an unforgettable shame" "We will never forgive you".
- My own dad doesn't even want to know my name, says Sara. I have suffered from depression, breakdowns and have great anxiety about how my own family has reacted.
Today Sara no longer has direct contact with the family. She can't cope anymore. - I was so hurt by my mother's e-mail that I stopped reading them. I tried to make them understand, make them love me regardless, but nothing helped. My parents are so scared of the family's reputation that they are lying to relatives and friends about what has happened. The official explanation is that Sara is still studying at the University of London. Sara only has contact with a friend in the homeland who knows the truth.
- I can't talk to anyone at home to not reveal why I escaped, she says. David has not given up hope that her family will one day change. It's sad to see how a family can forget someone so easily. I keep in touch with parts of the family and friends, send pictures, tell her she is fine. In any case, we try, even if I don't always get a response, he says. David even converted to Islam in the hope that the family would accept him.
Earlier this year, Pope Francis visited the Arabian Peninsula on the Persian Gulf for the first time, to strengthen the ties between Christianity and Islam. 2019 is set for the tolerant year in the United Arab Emirates.
Is the country still moving forward?
- It's laughable, like propaganda. It's a way to darken the attention and headlines that several princesses tried to escape from the royal family in Dubai, Sara says. Three years have passed. Sara has never regretted leaving. She is still healing. - I have had the nightmares and wake up by crying in my sleep ... Freedom is not something everyone can count on.
Discriminatory laws against women in the United Arab Emirates
- Sharia law and the tradition of polygamy are still alive in the country. A man can have four wives at once. A woman, on the other hand, can only be married to a man.
- A man can marry a non-Muslim woman. But for a Muslim woman to marry a man of another religion is not allowed.
- A woman also has to have the go-ahead from a male guardian to get married.
