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Biggest liars and shysters with questionable morals I know are Christians, especially Mormons. And people who "always say it like it is" are proven to be extremely insecure.
So you got some red flags going for you, boyo.
That said, I can relate. Telling a lie literally feels like a burden, some shit you now need to keep track of. At the same time - right now, I'm of the opinion that truth is earned. Unless you're untouchable, being honest with somebody who could get offended and resent you for it is like giving a weapon to your enemy. They'll just use it against you. Cause truth can force people out of their comfort zone and they'll fight and destroy others to not have to do it. Meanwhile, being honest with a person who's earned it can help them out big time. And when to tell the truth? I think it's like "when the student is ready, master appears" kind of thing (not that you're a master, but the logic engine of this example applies). When they'll wanna hear it, you'll say it. Just my experience, so far.
Also, as you'll age, you'll realize that, yeah - you may have been right when you thought you were right. But the annoying part will be the realization that there are multiple right answers. And it can differ for everyone. So when you say "I always tell the truth! I always say it like it is!", if you're not careful with your wording and attitude, you can make people feel like you're forcing them into something. And you shouldn't really mess with people's personal path.
Consider learning how to keep things to yourself or add some legalese and nothing speak to your vocabulary to get out of situations without lying. Upgrade your sense of humor as well. You can drop quick truth bombs here there via "it's funny cause it's true". People are less resistant to you being honest if it's done with comedy.
That said, I post on sherdog and just had to get a new job cause my old career, effectively, failed. So maybe... not the right person to be sharing advice.
I’m not perfect and I’ve made plenty of terrible decisions in my life. My morals for the most part are good but even then no one is perfect. I agree on the Christians being shiesty. I would definitely not classify myself as insecure though… but I mean everyone is insecure about something in their life.
Thank you for the post and for taking the time to share. Your post is gold. Going to wake up tomorrow and re read it for sure. Probably gonna bookmark this thread and read everything everyone said.
I appreciate everyone’s input in this thread. Please everyone share more if you can.