Social Do you lie or do you tell the truth?

Cpt Migraine said:
I don't lie unless necessary and the truth is more of a tool than an absolute to me..

Telling someone they're ugly, stupid, won't reach their goals is not very productive and just a matter of my opinion.. i can only speak for my own perspective and thinking my perspective is the truth seems a bit optimistic..

Say getting stopped for speeding "do you know why we're stopping you" - no idea officer.. i will lie because getting a ticket or losing my licence won't benefit me and it's the officers job to have evidence..

Say a girl asks if a dress makes her look fat - not at all.. (it's never the dresses fault.. you look fat because you are) but hurting someone looking for a bit of confirmation is rude..
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i definitely don’t do that… I posted super late and I probably sounded like a rambling mess and didn’t explain myself properly

The advice / truth I usually give makes me look like I’m coming from a position of superiority or knowing more and I think that’s what rubs people the wrong way

i give them constructive advice without blatantly insulting them… like if I see someone struggling with something and they don’t see why… I’ll give them unsolicited advice that if followed would benefit them. They might not even know they are struggling with something and I still give them advise and try to tell them. Some rare individuals appreciate it and thank me for it. They might not immediately act on it but they know about the information now or they actually do act on it. Others might thank me for it but then they don’t see me as a friend anymore or develop hatred/jealousy whatever and they try their best to knock me down a peg or avoid me. My close friends appreciate anything I advise them with and we have an open information exchange.
 
Fugazy said:
Hahhahaha I’m retired from all that man, I’m just trying to figure out how to make art from dead trees and be a better fisherman at this point in my life
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We are on the same page...but real recognizes real sir lol.
I live art, so get that and Im about to go get my fishing license in 3 states.

We are like twins carnalito lol.
 
StonedLemur said:
Saying you're a natural leader, handsome, above average intellect etc etc etc, is awkward all on it's own sir.
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i understand…. But in battle and in sports people love me. I’m here for information exchange, to get the job done at all costs.

i don’t think it’s awkward to say the truth when trying to exchange information and learn but ehh I can see your point
 
StonedLemur said:
We are on the same page...but real recognizes real sir lol.
I live art, so get that and Im about to go get my fishing license in 3 states.

We are like twins carnalito lol.
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I think I might be Danny Devito in this situation my bro but it’s all good he’s living a kickass life
 
AldoStillGoat said:
i understand…. But in battle and in sports people love me. I’m here for information exchange, to get the job done at all costs.

i don’t think it’s awkward to say the truth when trying to exchange information and learn but ehh I can see your point
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I've never had a problem with you so fuck the ones that do.
 
Fugazy said:
You are not lying bro.

Im the type of dude who might pull a bitch anywhere. And a lot of guys don’t like that. I’m not rich, but I’m doing OK, and I can only really mess with a few friends I’ve had since my teens because of that.

I would literally never pull someone else’s chick, but when I meet new dudes, friends of friends type situation, they tend to get salty because bitches I don’t know tend to like me.

Im sorry women like how I look and I walk like I know how to fold up a woman. I don’t know anything else.

Edit:! And I’m almost never even thinking of women when I go out. It’s just not like that for me. I don’t even want to bother and other things are taking up space in my mind.
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I have this problem too. I’m not saying I’m a 10/10 and there are for sure guys that can pull better than me but I’m above average and I think that’s partly where my confidence comes from. While this is an issue, it’s not the core issue. More like I prefer unabashed information exchange over making sure someone likes me.
 
Fugazy said:
I think I might be Danny Devito in this situation my bro but it’s all good he’s living a kickass life
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Im 6ft 285 at this point lmao.
Danny Devito was Arnolds equal in many ways so no shame in that sir.

Check your PMs btw.
 
Starman said:
When it comes to honesty, there’s a difference between being frank/blunt and being tactful.

Your problem may not necessarily be that you’re too honest, but rather your delivery is poor.

There’s a way to be honest that doesn’t cost you friendships / relationships in the process.

Your age might have something to do with it too. Millennials and their bastard zoomer offspring tend to have very weak or non-existent social skills.
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Best way I can describe it is, I like to share knowledge.

I don’t just randomly start saying things that will hurt someone. I try to be tactful in my delivery but it’s just the information itself comes off as I know what you need. If someone gave me advice too or solved my problem for me it would knudge at my ego a little bit but I wouldn’t let it bother me. I’d appreciate the person for being truthful and giving me information I can use … even if they seem to be a know it all in that situation.

me and my friends just give each other information and we help each other and we don’t get mad at each other for it… it’s like an open information highway
 
AldoStillGoat said:
can you elaborate? Cop out how?
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because there's more to people liking you, and you getting opportunities in life than whether or not you're an honest person. I understand people can be socially manipulative and deceitful to get others on their side, but that's not the only path forward. People that claim to be "brutally honest" and complain that others disparage and resent them for it, are not focusing on the "brutally" part of it. You don't have to be an asshole to be an honest person, in other words.
 
AldoStillGoat said:
Best way I can describe it is, I like to share knowledge.

I don’t just randomly start saying things that will hurt someone. I try to be tactful in my delivery but it’s just the information itself comes off as I know what you need. If someone gave me advice too or solved my problem for me it would knudge at my ego a little bit but I wouldn’t let it bother me. I’d appreciate the person for being truthful and giving me information I can use … even if they seem to be a know it all in that situation.

me and my friends just give each other information and we help each other and we don’t get mad at each other for it… it’s like an open information highway
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This is a good post.

I taught myself how to say to someone, anyone, “you’re right”. Whether I like it or not. Sometimes other people are just plain right.

It was hard to do it in a way where I didn’t seem like a smart ass, but sometimes you just have to know when you can learn something from someone else, no matter how high on yourself you are.
 
Fugazy said:
Heheheh yeah that’s it.

Im not flashy in any way. I’m just well put together in some ways. But When I’m at my most comfortable I’m in a 6 year old Bucks hoodie and a 5 dollar bass pro trucker hat vs when someone is all fancied up for some reason it’s like they just know. Hell I can dress up too, I just don’t like it.

I do have a pretty face though lmao. Which helps Im sure.

But yeah, they can smell a man from a mile away. Not too many of us left.
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#prettyboy problems
 
AldoStillGoat said:
I believe I am handsome and above average intelligence... we can hop on facetime if you'd like me to prove the first part. But seriously, in regards to the topic at hand, let's say there was nothing wrong with me physically or mentally that would hinder me socially.... how would you answer some of the questions above?
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Brad Pitt doesn't tell everyone he's handsome and Professor BrianCox doesn't tell everyone he's smart.

They don't have to.
 
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