Social Kid Got Attacked At Recess

William Huggins said:
Just sounds like you needed more "character building" to me........
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Nah mate. I needed a bit of guidance, to get away from other kids, and a bit of positivity in my life.

I was regularly spat on, even in class, and tormented. At home? Tormented by my older brother and beaten up when I shouted back. I absolutely hated life.

Honestly, if I could talk to my younger self, I'd tell me to not talk to a single kid at school, go to the library and do homework at break, do exercise and extra curricular after school and only go home to shower and sleep in the evenings. Avoid "friends" and family like the plague. Don't even speak to them.

People who "miss" bullying, are cunts.
 
Wrath of Foamy said:
Nah mate. I needed a bit of guidance, to get away from other kids, and a bit of positivity in my life.

I was regularly spat on, even in class, and tormented. At home? Tormented by my older brother and beaten up when I shouted back. I absolutely hated life.

Honestly, if I could talk to my younger self, I'd tell me to not talk to a single kid at school, go to the library and do homework at break, do exercise and extra curricular after school and only go home to shower and sleep in the evenings. Avoid "friends" and family like the plague. Don't even speak to them.

People who "miss" bullying, are cunts.
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Sorry to hear that, doesn't sound like a great start to life.

Yeah, a time machine would be great right now.......
 
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Sounds like their parents need a talking
 
deadshot138 said:
Yes it's impossible for kids to get suspended these days and my kid scored off the charts on tests but they're still sending her home with piss easy homework because her classmates aren't as advanced.
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That isn’t good at all, if your kid is demonstrating that she has superior abilities to learn she shouldn’t be in a stagnant environment. She should be stimulated and challenged by advanced classes and be around classmates that are at her level.

When I was little I was more advanced than everyone else and it lead to bad stuff, finishing work too fast and then fooling around and being distracting to others, wasting time not learning, feeling out of place, being used to not having to work or study, which lead to not being accustomed to exerting effort by the time I hit advanced high school/college classes that were actually challenging and I hadn’t developed work ethic because I was used to easy stuff that I understood right away.
I resented it when I grew up. No one took the interest in developing me according to my potential.
And ultimately it was my fault that I didn’t do my part when I needed to step up academically so I accept that it was up to me to find a path and I didn’t.

When she grows up you don’t want her to live around violent, mentally underperforming people; so why should she be accustomed it?
You can build her character by getting her to do chores, by enrolling her in martial arts/grappling, by getting her involved in group activities, etc…
 
chill doggie said:
That isn’t good at all, if your kid is demonstrating that she has superior abilities to learn she shouldn’t be in a stagnant environment. She should be stimulated and challenged by advanced classes and be around classmates that are at her level.

When I was little I was more advanced than everyone else and it lead to bad stuff, finishing work too fast and then fooling around and being distracting to others, wasting time not learning, feeling out of place, being used to not having to work or study, which lead to not being accustomed to exerting effort by the time I hit advanced high school/college classes that were actually challenging and I hadn’t developed work ethic because I was used to easy stuff that I understood right away.
I resented it when I grew up. No one took the interest in developing me according to my potential.
And ultimately it was my fault that I didn’t do my part when I needed to step up academically so I accept that it was up to me to find a path and I didn’t.

When she grows up you don’t want her to live around violent, mentally underperforming people; so why should she be accustomed it?
You can build her character by getting her to do chores, by enrolling her in martial arts/grappling, by getting her involved in group activities, etc…
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We love you buddy.......
 
deadshot138 said:
And I'm resisting the urge of going to the school, punting the offending kid into orbit and manhandling the parents. Public schools, brahs. Not even once. Tried telling the wife we should move to a better school district or look into private school. She thinks being educated around feral kids with shit parents is "character building." Giving the school a chance to rectify the situation before I end up on the evening news. I can just see some idiot TA on their phone while my kid is being attacked. Makes my blood boil. And of course my kid won't defend herself because she thinks she'll get in trouble.
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Honest question, what would you like to happen to the other kid? (realistically)
 
Wrath of Foamy said:
Nah mate. I needed a bit of guidance, to get away from other kids, and a bit of positivity in my life.

I was regularly spat on, even in class, and tormented. At home? Tormented by my older brother and beaten up when I shouted back. I absolutely hated life.

Honestly, if I could talk to my younger self, I'd tell me to not talk to a single kid at school, go to the library and do homework at break, do exercise and extra curricular after school and only go home to shower and sleep in the evenings. Avoid "friends" and family like the plague. Don't even speak to them.

People who "miss" bullying, are cunts.
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Same, except at home I was the older brother.

I do wonder if the environment made much difference to me though, I suspect I would have found similar difficulties wherever. I often wonder what it might have looked like from a third party viewpoint.

But yeah, it's pretty savage. More so if you're neuro diverse.
 
Public Schools are shit to be honest. They have been for a while. Also, it's not "character building" to allow kids to treat your kid like utter shit when you spent years trying to raise them right. Even worse when teachers and parents of said kids dont wanna acknowledge theres an issue or refuse to do much about it.

Teachers usually argue they are limited, or realistically just dont care enough cause they feel they are underpayed. The schools usually try to play the neutral role. Parents never wanna admit they suck at parenting. Theres not much a lone kid can do when multiple kids are being asshole bullies. This isnt a Bruce Lee movie unfortunately.

Times are also different. If your kid beat the living shit out of a bully or you will smith smacked a parent, guess whos gonna get massive backlash?

There are fortunately options for alternative schooling these days if you look around. My friends kids are both in this thing called Forest School for example. Kids are super well behaved and the teachers dont allow any shitty behaviour or youre out. Everyone has to work together and the older kids help look out for the youngsters. Outdoor setting. Everyone who completes it leaves with honors.

There are also community organized schooling systems where groups of like minded parents hire teachers to teach limited numbers of kids.

Either that or home schooling if you have the time and resources for it.
 
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deadshot138 said:
Parent to punish the kid, kid to apologize. I don't mean a beating with a belt, abuse begets abuse. Take away the X box for a week or something.
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That's fair, surprising that that's not just standard.

I think the school and parents should be in sync when it comes to punishment. Should be a double whammy so the kid knows that whatever they do at school will also have consequences at both places.
 
How old is your kid, and was there more to the attack,or was it just a "tackle"?

I'm a high school teacher in Canada and I can tell you, I teach lots of various demographics of kids. There are some with really good parents that try all they can, and the students can still be bully's, or mean or treat others like shit.
 
SmilinDesperado said:
That's fair, surprising that that's not just standard.

I think the school and parents should be in sync when it comes to punishment. Should be a double whammy so the kid knows that whatever they do at school will also have consequences at both places.
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Again, public school. In the harsher areas, parents show up to fight kids with their own kids. Some bring firearms.
 
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preppypyro said:
How old is your kid, and was there more to the attack,or was it just a "tackle"?

I'm a high school teacher in Canada and I can tell you, I teach lots of various demographics of kids. There are some with really good parents that try all they can, and the students can still be bully's, or mean or treat others like shit.
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6, first grade. It was a tackle and choking.
 
Character building?

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I suppose you could maybe ask your wife what in hell kind of "character" she thinks your daughter is going to build from childhood trauma, physical violence and poor education, because traditionally that tends to build the character of serious trust issues, substance abuse and self harm.
 
ColemanwastheGOAT said:
Your wife is putting her own convenience ahead of your kid's health.
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Not really. My dad always taught me not to start shit but if someone hits you your absolutely in the right to defend yourself. Shoulda laid them hands on that girl, that stops bullying 9 times out of 10.
 
Why everyone always going into narrow extremes. "Character building" public school can definitely be a good thing, socially much better than private, to learn to difusse conflicts, come in contact with all sorts of folks, know when to stand up for yourself and how etc.... It can lead to substances/trauma but only (or waaay more predominately) as usual it comes down to guidance/parents. With a good parent or grandparent to talk to how to tackle it, the kid will surely learn more about how to deal with various folks later in life than in a more isolated private s-kool.
 
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