My post might not have came off that way, but that's exactly what I'm trying to do. I didn't want to just get another source and be mislead again. I figured at least if someone said something detailed and extensive here, I could go figure out the truthfulness of it myself.You need a paradigm change. It seems that you've been expecting to have someone tell you what is right and wrong, true and false. If you just absorb everything people say, you're going to absorb a lot of crap, because people say a lot of stupid things. You need to engage in your own critical thinking.
To get a start, go read the FAQs, and if something doesn't seem to make any sense, go ahead and ask about it. Don't say "but I heard elsewhere..." because "elsewhere" may be well be an idiot. Explain in terms of your own reasoning what you think the issue is. You'll be surprised how things start to make sense when you look at them critically, as opposed to comparatively (that is, compared to what "they all say").
BTW, I'm new here -- I have no idea where the FAQs are. I saw FAQ listed on the User CP, Forum Jump, Forum Rules, etc. line, but I can't find what I'm supposed to look for.
BTW again, thanks for the lead.