Bachelor life is more depressing than what I thought it would be

[Graves The Elder]

5/10 troll thread
meh

 

[Midnighter]

Any pics of Mom of the Year?

I'll send you some later.

 

[sweetviolenturg]

I’ve been inactive on here for a little while and never usually make threads like these, but here goes.

A little backstory - I split up with my fiancé (and mother of my child) a couple months ago due to her going on cute dates with a convicted criminal while I was at work providing for our family. We were supposed to be getting married in November and had pretty much everything booked. Now I’m living alone and paying child support.

Now, during the time we’ve broken up, I’ve never been so sexually active in my life and have slept with multiple different women through Tinder. I thought this would be the start of an exciting and fulfilling new bachelor life, but instead I’m left with feelings of emptiness and loneliness every night. It’s at the point now where I’m not even enjoying sleeping with these women anymore and I’m only doing it to feed my own ego.

So, what gives exactly? I see dudes in similar situations to myself just absolutely loving it and having the time of their lives, yet here I am finding myself slowly getting more depressed as each day goes by and going back to my excessive drinking habits.

Probably not the best place to post this, but I needed to vent.

As some others have pointed out before me, it sounds like your fiance's betrayal & the subsequent break up with her may very well have triggered a clinical state of depression. Also, it appears that you didn't give yourself time to properly grieve the end of the relationship before delving into the world of copious amounts of casual sex.
Sometimes it's good to follow certain steps after something causes a big emotional upheaval like your break up did. You could have probably used some time alone to cope with it & heal but instead, you put an emotional band-aid on your wounds with revenge sex. Which obviously isn't what you needed.
So, take a few steps back, spend some time by yourself getting your head straight, maybe talk to a professional counselor of some sort for a while & then, once your heart heals a bit think about reentering the dating pool. Best of luck to you, bro.
Peace.

 

[toaa]

Her friend sent me screenshots of the conversations they were having, which also included her sending nudes to him. They went bowling and to the movies together, so yeah, I’d say they were actual dates.

He wasn’t a random dude, I also knew the guy prior to all this but never liked him.

As shitty as it is, thank God you found out before you got married.

 

[Lights Out 101]

How old is your ex and convict?

I ask because it sounds like something a person with no responsibility would do not a person with a child. How long were you seeing her for and when you met, were you guys deeply in love with each other?

I ask because I want to know if relationships fizzle out because their foundation is based on sexuality or if its based on companionship and deep affection.

She’s 29, I’m 27, and the other guy is 28 I think, I’m not entirely sure.

We had been together for 5 years. I met her at the casino while she was working and striked up a conversation, which lead to me asking for her number, and we became pretty much inseparable ever since.

 

[Kowboy Karl]

Get calf implants

 

[Ogata]

She’s 29, I’m 27, and the other guy is 28 I think, I’m not entirely sure.

We had been together for 5 years. I met her at the casino while she was working and striked up a conversation, which lead to me asking for her number, and we became pretty much inseparable ever since.

In the beginning and within the 5 years, was there any intense passion and affection outside of sexuality?

Like doing things to make her smile and did she do the same to make daily life better?

I am sorry if I am sounding flaky or straight up strange. I am trying to understand the patterns as to why a relationship fails. Did the cheating caught you off guard or was the relationship a bit shaky or mundane that allowed the cheating to happen? I assume not since you were getting married but goddamn this stuff scares me because I stopped being an Incel and I want to love and trust but I need to know the emotional setting.

Anyways, I have no doubt in my mind that bachelor life would be better if it wasn't due to the relationship going south. After all, you cant just turn feelings off and pretend the 5 years and the memories of it did not happen.

 

[Fedorgasm]

Swimming in poon and depressed?

Go hang out with a guy that can't even get laid. You'll feel like a million bucks afterwards.

Of course he'll feel like shit, but hey, this thread ain't about him now is it.

 

[Mike]

 

[Jack Stevonovich]

mostt girls on tinder are soulless ambitionless personality-empty thots

not all of them, but the vast majority.

you need to meet girls in the real world, with out trying to force it too much



EVERYONE always puts on a mask, to make everyone think their life is amazing full of non stop joy and happiness. they are trying to fool other people and also fool themselves.

people just need to go camping more often.

 

[Deleted member 263856]

I’ve been inactive on here for a little while and never usually make threads like these, but here goes.

A little backstory - I split up with my fiancé (and mother of my child) a couple months ago due to her going on cute dates with a convicted criminal while I was at work providing for our family. We were supposed to be getting married in November and had pretty much everything booked. Now I’m living alone and paying child support.

Now, during the time we’ve broken up, I’ve never been so sexually active in my life and have slept with multiple different women through Tinder. I thought this would be the start of an exciting and fulfilling new bachelor life, but instead I’m left with feelings of emptiness and loneliness every night. It’s at the point now where I’m not even enjoying sleeping with these women anymore and I’m only doing it to feed my own ego.

So, what gives exactly? I see dudes in similar situations to myself just absolutely loving it and having the time of their lives, yet here I am finding myself slowly getting more depressed as each day goes by and going back to my excessive drinking habits.

Probably not the best place to post this, but I needed to vent.

Yup. It all depends on the personality type. Some dudes like being in relationships and having kids, some don't. You are probably the former and it's a good thing. My advice, hit the gym and go running. Eat well sleep well. After awhile start dating again but maybe don't do too many one night stands if it doesn't feel fulfilling. Go online (not Tinder!) and find chicks that are a bit more serious. You've had a massive breach of trust and banging hoes isn't going to do much good long term. Set a good example for the kiddo because those buggers hang on to everything you do. And whatever you do don't get back together with your ex.

 

[Pugilistic]

Swimming in poon and depressed?

Go hang out with a guy that can't even get laid. You'll feel like a million bucks afterwards.

Of course he'll feel like shit, but hey, this thread ain't about him now is it.

Why are you bringing me into this

 

[Ceez]

I’ve been inactive on here for a little while and never usually make threads like these, but here goes.

A little backstory - I split up with my fiancé (and mother of my child) a couple months ago due to her going on cute dates with a convicted criminal while I was at work providing for our family. We were supposed to be getting married in November and had pretty much everything booked. Now I’m living alone and paying child support.

Now, during the time we’ve broken up, I’ve never been so sexually active in my life and have slept with multiple different women through Tinder. I thought this would be the start of an exciting and fulfilling new bachelor life, but instead I’m left with feelings of emptiness and loneliness every night. It’s at the point now where I’m not even enjoying sleeping with these women anymore and I’m only doing it to feed my own ego.

So, what gives exactly? I see dudes in similar situations to myself just absolutely loving it and having the time of their lives, yet here I am finding myself slowly getting more depressed as each day goes by and going back to my excessive drinking habits.

Probably not the best place to post this, but I needed to vent.

Time mane. It takes time to get over what you're going through because it's still really fresh. Another woman can't replace the one that you were in love with. While you're fucking around its fun until you cum and than you're right back to where you were. Time heals and that's really all there is to it.

 

[Phlog]

I lived the bachelor life and I thought I hated it. After losing my parents and being on my own for a handful of years, I got lonely. I ran thru girls on various dating sites.. I felt like none of them were GF material.

Then I met a girl. I forced myself to settle down. 2 months later we married. I figured how bad could it be?

A month after marriage I got her pregnant. 5 months into the pregnancy we separated. I was done. I couldn't stand her. My life took a turn for the worse financially because of her. I spent a year rebuilding my life. I lived in absolute poverty for a year. Starvation. Could keep my utilities paid, etc...

That was a few years ago..

I'm back to living the bachelor life. I absolutely don't want to be tied down or married ever..

I have come to realize that life is just boring.. I'm always going to be bored most of the time. There is not much I can do about it.. I have accepted it

The best times I had in my life happened during my childhood. Nothing will ever beat that. The childhood and friends I had as a kid was reminiscent of the movie The Goonies... Life was an adventure. I'd give anything to go back....

No amount of spending money, partying, or banging hotties will ever beat hanging out with my best childhood friends...

You got married in 2 months and her pregnant in 3 you idiot! It takes years to know of someone is the one. Fuck.

 

[burningspear]

When the break up isnt of your making its always a bummer.

 

[Herwald]

Everyone's advice is sort of Marco-Polo'ing towards the same thing: you're looking for external to either fix or fill your internal and it's the least original problem there is. Can't give you any advice cause I can't comprehend your situation... to be left alone in your own peace and quiet, to have time for nothing but yourself... sounds like science fiction to me.

 

[Merlotte's]

Start banging guys

 

[GtehMVP]

For couples that are mature enough to get through the rough patches, and are legit happy together, all the power to them. Once you deal with enough crazy though, there's nothing quite as appealing as being a bachelor.

It's never easy close to a failed LTR, as there's a hole in your life that railing randoms can't fill. Eventually you'll fill that hole with better things. It's important to give yourself time. Get out and spend quality time with your buddies/family. Treat yourself too, maybe buy that giant screen TV your ex thought was a waste of $$$

When you think of your ex afterwards, you might miss certain things, but you'll never forget that she's untrustworthy and not worth your time, unless you don't respect yourself that is.

 

[SalvadorAllende]

You're probably just depressed tbh

Depression is something you live with your whole life. I think TS is just on a rough patch.

@Lights Out 101
I was always dependant on womens approval and never took the time to be alone for a while.
I discovered that my relationships with women (either if it was just sex or deeper than that) had to do with my anxiety issues.
Doing sports, spending more time and actually caring with my family and friends, studying and learning new stuff, work on my everyday habits.. all of that proved to help me with that.
I feel like I'm much better now and even the way I see women is different.
But you have to be though to not fall back. Once you get used to everything is going to be better.

Sad to read that about your ex. That sounds like an overall bad situation, specially when you have a daughter together. That was a shitty thing to do from her side.

 

[Oblivian]

Do you have a hobby or passion? Honestly, I think that is the key to day to day happiness.