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Well I can tell you it wasn't any one thing. The people who know me personally think it was because my wife and I got divorced, but the truth is there were tons of issues we faced in the church way before the marriage was dismantled. In fact I'd go so far as to say that if I had not been a pastor, she and I would still be married to this day.
When I worked with kids, that's when I was the happiest. I did summer camps and that was the most blissful stuff I ever experienced in my life. I also served as a prison chaplain and that brought some of the most touching moments in my life.
The issues usually came from dealing with other adult Christians. Just one example: one time, after services, one of the ladies came up to me and asked if I would do a series of sermons on the dangers of pornography. This was 2007 and so internet porn was really on the rise. I agreed that it was an important topic and a couple weeks later gave my first lecture on it. After THAT, another lady started screaming at me. She called me a liar, and a legalistic scribe. I sincerely, truly had no idea what the hell was going on. Later the men of the church had a meeting with me (we had no elders, that was a huge problem) and I still was not clear on what the issue was, and nobody would tell me, even though it was clear that I did not have all the pieces.
I eventually found out that the kid of the one woman and the kid of the other had been on someone's computer, and that adult content was later found by the parents. Both kids pointed the finger at each other and because the porn was found at a particular house, it was believed that the kid who lived there had dug it up.
And in an attempt to weaponize her pastor, the mother had asked me to start a series on the subject as a means of attacking her. She had left this part out in her discussion with me.
I really got to see the worst sides of people. After my divorce I stuck around for another year but just decided that I'd rather be homeless than do that anymore. So I retired. And when I left I had no plan. It was better in my view to drive south to Florida with no plan whatsoever than it was to stay up there.
im not surprised you experienced that kind of ridiculousness honestly. ive experienced my fair share of mutiny and hidden motives too. if you are happier doing what you are doing im glad you chose to get out of it man. can i ask (with no intention at all of trying to change your mind) how that effected your Christianity causing you to leave it?