Actually it's very much about the order if you want to find solutions. Finding solutions often requires identifying the origin because if you don't know what started the sequence, you risk implementing solutions that repeat the same problem.
As for your 2nd paragraph, since I didn't say that I'm not sure what you're looking for as a response. I said that the onus to reset the relationship falls on the government side of the equation.
Think about it like a dating relationship where the 2 people have gone down a rabbit hole of toxicity. Someone has to reset the dynamic. And that someone should be the person whose actions initiated the chain of events. That does not mean they bear the whole burden of resetting the dynamic - it means that they have to start the change.
If some dude cheats on his wife and they end up in a bad place, it's never going to work if he says "It's her responsibility to repair this relationship, I'll just wait for her." Why doesn't that work? Because he's the one who started it. He has to acknowledge that, figure out how to repair the relationship and then implement that. After that, the burden shifts to her to acknowledge that effort is being made and alter her behavior as well. But it's never going to be repaired when the aggrieved party is also being told that they have to start the remediation. "I was wronged AND I have to apologize before you do anything?"
That's why the order absolutely matters if people want genuine solutions.