What do you expect from your girlfriend/wife sexually?

Couldn't read past the 2nd paragraph. I'm sorry but a girl not wanting to suck your balls is no grounds for terminating a relationship. Maybe if they can do it every once in a while...but is that really a must?

I'm far from a feminist, but I also think you have to consider the girl's wants and needs to. Maybe you don't do it for her either?
I’ve never understood the infatuation with ball sucking.

it’s “meh” once in a while as a tease up to the actual Bj, but don’t latch on to them. Drives me nuts actually.

And I can’t do anal.

My theory is the dudes that like anal, are to small for a vag to feel good so they gotta for a smaller hole to feel some tightness.

That’s all that would make sense to me??

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Ain't gonna read all that, but in general you should be prepared to compromise within reason.
And beyond that, if you're not compatible sexually, then you just aren't, and it's fine. It's not meant to be.

Having a set of requirements that your partner has to meet begrudgingly doesn't seem like a fun way to do relationships.
 
I’ve never understood the infatuation with ball sucking.

it’s “meh” once in a while as a tease up to the actual Bj, but don’t latch on to them. Drives me nuts actually.

And I can’t do anal.

My theory is the dudes that like anal, are to small for a vag to feel good so they gotta for a smaller hole to feel some tightness.

That’s all that would make sense to me??

<Fedor23>
Never put in a girls butt I'd probably do it if my wife was into that.
 
The chick I am with right now is a freak. She is married but told me she has sex with her current about once every six months. She asked me what excuses she should give her SO to not have sex and I just told her to tell him to shut up or that your belly hurts. Simple. Plus they don’t have AC and he walks around with his shirt off which grosses her out.
 
The thing with holding it to ransom again it's like women who try to mould men into their ideal. If you manage to have someone over such a barrel then how is that attractive? Alright, I don't want to be smacked about type level but bringing a man down to such a level where you have his balls on the mantlepiece just isn't attractive. I wouldn't want to sleep with a man that I had managed to reduce to that level.

Dave Barry has the theory that women marry men with the intention of changing them. Men marry women and don't want them to change. The way it works out is that men don't change but women always do.

Men would wear the same hairstyle they had in high school as long as they have hair. They would wear the same clothes they wore in high school, drive the same car, live in the same house without moving the furniture.

Women have to constantly change their hairstyle, clothing, cars, where they live and have to be constantly moving furniture. They paint the walls just to change the color. Remodel the kitchen every 10 years. That quest for change often includes their husband.

Men and women are basically so different that it becomes difficult to stay together.
 
The chick I am with right now is a freak. She is married but told me she has sex with her current about once every six months. She asked me what excuses she should give her SO to not have sex and I just told her to tell him to shut up or that your belly hurts. Simple. Plus they don’t have AC and he walks around with his shirt off which grosses her out.
Classic
 
Dave Barry has the theory that women marry men with the intention of changing them. Men marry women and don't want them to change. The way it works out is that men don't change but women always do.

Men would wear the same hairstyle they had in high school as long as they have hair. They would wear the same clothes they wore in high school, drive the same car, live in the same house without moving the furniture.

Women have to constantly change their hairstyle, clothing, cars, where they live and have to be constantly moving furniture. They paint the walls just to change the color. Remodel the kitchen every 10 years. That quest for change often includes their husband.

Men and women are basically so different that it becomes difficult to stay together.
And that sort of mediocrity ain't dropping any panties anytime. We're all lazy at some points, I'm sure. But unless there's a medical condition (which can include mental health...I would accept that) it really doesn't take too much for a quick bunk up in the morning when you wake up before getting ready for work. I know we can sort ourselves out with porn, toys etc. But 5 minutes in the morning is a pretty decent start to the day.
 
Damn, I may never with the lottery but I have a wife who still fulfils sexual request upon asking with no hesitation, even after 13 years of being together. I'll take it.
 
Dave Barry has the theory that women marry men with the intention of changing them. Men marry women and don't want them to change. The way it works out is that men don't change but women always do.

Men would wear the same hairstyle they had in high school as long as they have hair. They would wear the same clothes they wore in high school, drive the same car, live in the same house without moving the furniture.

Women have to constantly change their hairstyle, clothing, cars, where they live and have to be constantly moving furniture. They paint the walls just to change the color. Remodel the kitchen every 10 years. That quest for change often includes their husband.

Men and women are basically so different that it becomes difficult to stay together.

Youre hired as my psychotherapist/shrink/guru. But if I don't see results expect to be replaced! ( Or maybe not).
 
In 2013, I had a vasectomy. Though there were no issues with the procedure, it took me a lot longer than I wanted to get back in the mix.

Being the competitive fucker I was, we made an earnest, very enthusiastic attempt 72 hours after. That was 1 day faster than the 'record' my wife's friends had bragged about. The experience left me with what I could only describe as PTSD.

All told, it took me about 8 weeks. The first 2, my wife was a gem. The 2nd 2 weeks, she was patient, but pressing. The 3rd 2 weeks, she was demanding therapy. And the last 2 weeks, I was not eating food she made for fear of being poisoned.


That started me off laughing so hard that my kids left their computers to see what was going on and our German Shepherd got off her bed and started pushing me with her nose cos she thought there was something wrong.

Thank you
 
Sorry this is an essay but feel its worthy discussion. So throughout my years of various girlfriends and I am sure many of you guys like me have noticed differences in your sex life with certain girls. So I feel like we all have the norms of typical sex we expect from our SO. I would say about 70% of the girls I have sex with was generally acceptable up to great. I can think of some past times were the sex was not good for various reasons and I could say that it is ground for not continuing/starting a relationship. Now we know no relationship is going to be perfect and there's always pros and cons and things that you will love or have to put up with the SO, so I am curious to see what you guys feel is not worth trying to keep it going if your personal needs aren't met and/or what are those sexual needs/desires.

So for me I can start from high school and this girlfriend at the time was like I dont suck balls, and Im thinking well someone has to suck my balls. I have come across a few girls that dont seem to be to motivated about it. Sometimes you have to guide there head down there thinking in your head like dont forget about those balls now. So i duno about yall, I personally think if a girl doesn't want suck my balls even groomed up too, that's not going to work long term.

I can think of a few times were there just didnt seem to be a great spark or wow factor in the bed too. Like sometimes you might have a girl that is perhaps like too quiet, like this one just barely a peep till she cumed. I mean Im not saying I require a screamer, but I dont mind a screamer. But you need a nice median, there needs to be at least some moans or a few "oh yas" or "oh just like that" in there you know or it seems a little awkward dont it? So this may be able to be worked on and ironically I had a girl that said I was to quite in bed sometimes, Im like girl do you see puttin in this work over here, do I look like I have the breath to be saying a whole bunch of shit. So I started calling her names like your my dirty little slut and she was happy LOL. I feel like this part of the topic could be very dynamic and not just verbal but just how they make love and is it deep and passionate. For example, I love a girl that will stick her tongue deep in my mouth and tornado that shit while some are so reserved with their tongue like wtf.

So Im like average dick size but on a rare few times, my average was too big for them, and that made the sex really suck when there in pain. Some of them just hurt too much when you go to deep even in positions that arent prone to it. I generally like to go hard as a mother and sink my ship as deep as I can. Its nice to have a girl that likes it ruff and have her hair pulled too. It has made me realize that if your bigger than average chances are your not having as good of sex with a higher % of girls out there. I really kinda disliked having to stop short at like 80%, something about it makes it harder to cum too. God bless you hung mofos out there and how you deal with it. So unfortunately, another reason I would have to move on. Size does matter.

Once I had this girl that had a lubrication problem and I guess doc wasn’t able to help enough. So again, it caused a lot of pain for her and a bummer for me.

How about not enough libido or quick cummer? I would say its rare but its out there in my experiences. So I had one girl that just came really quick like less than 5 min and started asking me when I am I going to cum, like wait what we just started. Luckily she was still able to stay lubricated and fuck with passion till I was done but a little annoying that she was ready for it to be over with so quick. She wasnt really down for a round 2 any time soon either so libidos and sex timing need to match up a bit.

How about bad pussy hygiene? Now I had girls where it was just an occasional thing or timing thing in the month thing, no bige right. But apparently there are some that gota prob on the reg. So this one chick we got started and she said she wasn’t into guys going down on her, I was soon to find out there was a reason for that. We started fucking and then the smell started to fill the room, it just got worse and worse and there was no ventilation, it was horrible, but I did finish. I actually don’t know if this was a reg thing for this chick cuz I didn’t end up coming back for more. She never said anything about the smell, like girI I know you smell this too. I actually kinda felt slightly taken advantage of, like why did she put me through that?

How about titty fucking? I would love to always have the option, Ive done it and cant say I personally absolutely need it. Its a nice option but I feel I can live without it, besides it like prob less than 30% of chicks out there you can easily titty fuck without trying to stretch those fuckers over too much.

So some chicks only want mouths and dicks near there pussy, no fingers. Sometime I feel like my fingers are neglected. Not a bige, not worthy for removal for me, but sometimes I just wana feel that pussy you know?

Last but not least. Experimenting and/or Kinkyness even if very occasional. Ok more so the main reason I made this thread, because I want to know if you expect a certain level or amount of kinkyness from your SO? Sometimes I feel like we should spice things up a little than just the reg, ofc the reg has to be good. But do you feel like yall should occasionally do something outside the norm, whether its anal, rim jobs, hancuffs, whippings, whatever the list goes on right, look it up. What do you and your SO do to sometimes spice things up, or do yall just stick with the reg? I would love to just occasionally fuck my girl in the ass, perhaps for my bday, or anniversary? I got no prob being kinky to my girl, she keeps her ass super clean so I eat her ass when I eat her pussy and she loves that shit but cant quite get her to return the favor just yet, maybe with time, perhaps with drugs too. I know it’s a big line to cross, but If I can get her to do that it would be epic. I got one freak to do it and its insane, if you never have had it done to you your missing out. Does your girl let you bust all over her face/mouth? I love that shit. She will rarely let me but its pulling teeth to do it. I feel like that is an occasional requirement for me, agree?

Cliffs: what does your girl allow you to do that is kinky outside regular sex and how often?
Butt stuff, Her mouth stuff, if I feel like it ill do something to her w my mouth, Boob suck stuff, you know the usual stuff you should be allowed to do with a girl your doing stuff with. I never fully understood the titty fuck stuff, that shite don't do anything for me
 
The post was too long for me to figure out what you are asking but since this thread has stuck around a couple days I decided to comment anyways.

I expect a BJ every week or so.
 
That started me off laughing so hard that my kids left their computers to see what was going on and our German Shepherd got off her bed and started pushing me with her nose cos she thought there was something wrong.

Thank you

Most Welcome. It's important to laugh at your own folly. And even more important to laugh at the folly of others.

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Butt stuff, Her mouth stuff, if I feel like it ill do something to her w my mouth, Boob suck stuff, you know the usual stuff you should be allowed to do with a girl your doing stuff with. I never fully understood the titty fuck stuff, that shite don't do anything for me

Couples need to know what they want. One woman I know got engaged to her long term boyfriend at the age of 23 and they leased an apartment and moved in together 6 months before the planned wedding. Within 3 months the wedding was off. They lived together until the lease ended because neither could afford it alone. She found out that he was more interested in playing video games than having sex with her. When they did have sex he didn't pay enough attention to her breasts. She was a tiny woman with large breasts and she caught me staring at them more than once. I'm a few years older than her dad but she showed up at my house one day. She told me she liked the way I looked at her breasts. She could orgasm just from playing with her breasts and loved getting titty fucked. She would just show up from time to time. She finally found a younger guy that was compatible with her.
 
Dave Barry has the theory that women marry men with the intention of changing them. Men marry women and don't want them to change. The way it works out is that men don't change but women always do.

Men would wear the same hairstyle they had in high school as long as they have hair. They would wear the same clothes they wore in high school, drive the same car, live in the same house without moving the furniture.

Women have to constantly change their hairstyle, clothing, cars, where they live and have to be constantly moving furniture. They paint the walls just to change the color. Remodel the kitchen every 10 years. That quest for change often includes their husband.

Men and women are basically so different that it becomes difficult to stay together.

Never heard this before, but it describes me and my wife to a T. She’s always wanting to make so many changes around the home, or to her wardrobe and I never want to do any.
 
I wrote a novel but decided to delete it. Communication and patience will open up a lot of doors sexually.
 
Couples need to know what they want. One woman I know got engaged to her long term boyfriend at the age of 23 and they leased an apartment and moved in together 6 months before the planned wedding. Within 3 months the wedding was off. They lived together until the lease ended because neither could afford it alone. She found out that he was more interested in playing video games than having sex with her. When they did have sex he didn't pay enough attention to her breasts. She was a tiny woman with large breasts and she caught me staring at them more than once. I'm a few years older than her dad but she showed up at my house one day. She told me she liked the way I looked at her breasts. She could orgasm just from playing with her breasts and loved getting titty fucked. She would just show up from time to time. She finally found a younger guy that was compatible with her.
I get it, I've had gals that get super turned on when it comes to titty play. I focus more on sucking the breasts as I love big tits and enjoi when a gal gets off on me sucking her boobiez but I don't get the appeal in putting my cak between her boobs and thrusting.....doesn't even make me hard and I don't think it'll get the gal off in anyway imo. I guess if she is sucking on it while doing that than maybe it makes some sense but I'd probably just shove it in her mouth instead of focus on titty fucking her. That shit makes no sense to me. Glad you helped that girl get off tho m8! Good on you
 
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If she doesn’t suck cock then I’m out. I’m happy to just relax most of the time but a classy freak is what I like.
 
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